[PART 1]

By Irone Kim Tolibao

There will always be a time in your life when you say “This is it. My forever. My first love is my last.” This phrase may be true to some people. Yet, to most people, this phrase becomes “That’s it. I’m done. My first love is my first lesson.”

From a guy’s perspective, having a girlfriend is a must. If you don’t have one, you’re either a loser or gay. That’s sexist, I know. Yet, that’s the reality in the world of young men. Having a girlfriend is proof that you are neither of the two labels that many teenagers fear. And like other guys, I aim to have a girlfriend ASAP.

I had my first girlfriend when I was in junior high school. Our relationship went well for more than a year or two. It felt like forever. Promises were made, flattering words were said, and love was ever present. Young love really is something.

As time goes by, we started to have petty fights, bad fights, terrible fights, and they grew worse as time passed. Until such time that we were wearing smiles and saying words that we didn’t believe in anymore. And yet, we lasted six years before we finally said, “Enough!”

I’ve always thought that every fight has a good side. I thought it makes a relationship stronger. But there are some fights that create huge gaps between two people. That’s what happened to us.

We were no longer holding on for love. We were holding on to maintain our social status. We didn’t want people to judge us and talk behind our backs about how we wasted our long-term relationship. Moving on was difficult. They say it’s easier to move on if distance is involved—away from familiar places and faces. I did that, but it was hard for me, nonetheless.


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About Irone Kim

I am a story-teller. I travel and write. I want to inspire people with my story. I am also a risk-taker. I am fond of putting myself in inconvenient situations and take pride on how I overcame them. Thus, sparked my love for travel.

Travel is a risky voyage and a great teacher. Through travel, I learned to detach myself from the material world. It taught me how to be content with who I am and what I have. Most importantly, travel helped mend my broken self and made me understand the true essence of falling in love.

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Edits: Kath C. Eustaquio-Derla

Online Publisher: PaperKatBooks

Philippine Copyright © 2017 by Irone Kim Tolibao

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