Excerpt from Fuck...Boy No More
By Mr. Bay Shaun*
I find that it doesn’t take too long for a man to build a good rapport with a woman enough to convince her that they are dating. He keeps demonstrating his worth and then elicits the values she looks for in a man. It will just fall naturally.
I didn’t actually court my current girlfriend. We had been talking for a few weeks and one day I just said to her, “Everyone else in our circle is dating and our friends have consecutive monthsaries to celebrate. Why don’t we just place our monthsary smack in the middle of two monthsaries and make it one celebration—make it a triple date or something.” And that was it. She said yes and we started dating.
“Can I court you?” It’s a lame question, isn’t it? It lessens your chances of getting the girl.
Relationships are a game—as with anything else in life. The aim is to get the woman you like. You can’t do that if you’re giving her options of men to date. You have to make it seem that you’re the exception to the rule. You are it. So don’t ask her if you can court her.
Sure, some people need clarification. But it’s not as complicated as everybody thinks. Eventually, the question will come up. If you’re really into her, then you will do everything to win her trust. You’ll put more effort to be closer to her and you’ll know exactly what you want. Eventually, she will ask, “What are we?” And if you are sincere in your feelings, then it will be easy for you to say, “You are my girlfriend.”
Now, asking her to be your girlfriend is another lame question. If a man courts a woman for more than nine months and it’s getting nowhere then he’s a fucking loser, right? He should let go and move the fuck on. There’s believed to be a ratio of 5 girls to 1 guy and if you waste 9 months over a single girl, who doesn’t give you shit then, what’s the point?
That’s not love anymore—that’s obsession. If someone is courting a girl for 9 months without success, man—kill yourself!
*Name has been changed.
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