Excerpt from Embracing Singlehood
By Paula Abiog
It is no great secret that once a woman hits 30, the whole world suddenly makes it their business to question or judge why she is still single, and helps “cure” her singleness by trying to pair her up with just about anyone.
Case in point: A day after uploading a new profile photo on my Facebook page, I got a notification that one of my titas posted a comment. To my utter embarrassment, the comment read:
“Ganda pamangkin ko o! Attn: Kind, honest, faithful, God-fearing, smart, RICH (good looking - optional hehehe) guys out there! Wat ya all waiting for??? ;)”
To be fair, my tita, like most relatives, probably just said this out of what they wholeheartedly believe is concern. I just wish she said it to my face rather than on Facebook. And so, while my friends had a good laugh over it (one even saved the comment on her phone, and told me she looks at it to cheer herself up whenever she feels sad), I was in a bind. I didn’t know if I should delete the comment, take down my profile photo, or deactivate my Facebook account. I ended up not doing anything with the comment. I decided it was funny and left it there. Although, for future reference, the “good-looking” quality is not optional.
Honestly, I don’t have any problem with being a Tinder-less single woman in her 30s, but it does sting a bit when other people do point out that I am a Tinder-less single woman in her 30s. It’s even worse when other people try to “help” because I have been single for more or less five years now and I must be desperate to be in a relationship. More importantly, that I need “help” because surely, I am desperate to get laid.
Yes, I am single, but I am most definitely not desperate to be in a relationship.
Photo by Paula Abiog
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