Excerpt from Embracing Singlehood

By Paula Abiog


It is no great secret that once a woman hits 30, the whole world suddenly makes it their business to question or judge why she is still single, and helps “cure” her singleness by trying to pair her up with just about anyone.

Case in point: A day after uploading a new profile photo on my Facebook page, I got a notification that one of my titas posted a comment. To my utter embarrassment, the comment read:

“Ganda pamangkin ko o! Attn: Kind, honest, faithful, God-fearing, smart, RICH (good looking - optional hehehe) guys out there! Wat ya all waiting for??? ;)”

To be fair, my tita, like most relatives, probably just said this out of what they wholeheartedly believe is concern. I just wish she said it to my face rather than on Facebook. And so, while my friends had a good laugh over it (one even saved the comment on her phone, and told me she looks at it to cheer herself up whenever she feels sad), I was in a bind. I didn’t know if I should delete the comment, take down my profile photo, or deactivate my Facebook account. I ended up not doing anything with the comment. I decided it was funny and left it there. Although, for future reference, the “good-looking” quality is not optional.

Honestly, I don’t have any problem with being a Tinder-less single woman in her 30s, but it does sting a bit when other people do point out that I am a Tinder-less single woman in her 30s. It’s even worse when other people try to “help” because I have been single for more or less five years now and I must be desperate to be in a relationship. More importantly, that I need “help” because surely, I am desperate to get laid.

Yes, I am single, but I am most definitely not desperate to be in a relationship.

Photo by Paula Abiog


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About Paula

Paula Abiog is a writer by profession, an athlete by frustration and a global pop star only in her deepest, wildest, most secret dreams. She has worked as a magazine writer, a PR officer and a social media manager.

When not writing, she plays tennis and runs half marathons. She loves coffee, spicy food, books, traveling and Korean variety shows.

She graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree, major in Communication and minor in History, from the Ateneo de Manila University. She plans to get a Master’s Degree soon.

Photos by Paula Abiog







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Edits: Jacquie Bamba S. Zamora

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Philippine Copyright © 2016 by Katherine C. Eustaquio-Derla

Kath C. Eustaquio-Derla is a journalism graduate from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, Philippines. She wrote Bedroom Blog by Veronica, a relationship blog for Cosmopolitan Philippines from 2009 to 2011, which covers most of her single dating life. In 2015, she published her first book Before I Do. She’s passionate about coffee, red wine, books and Mad Men. She stopped collecting hearts when she got married in 2013 and went back to collecting Archie Comics ever since. Send the author a tweet @kceustaquio.

Disclaimer: This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents are products of the author’s imagination and are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual events, places or persons, living or dead is entirely coincidental. Image from Pexels.com.

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