Excerpt from Some Marriage Myths Debunked
By Elizabeth A. Abrenica
“Marriage Is A Bed Of Roses”
Love is a feeling. It conquers all. Love is enough.
While love claims to be ultra-powerful in its purest form, the feelings we call “love” can also be ultra-fragile in the face of major individual differences—be it values, backgrounds, behaviors or even personal habits.
Yes, love is a mutual feeling you share with a significant other. It’s like the feeling you get when you get engaged and finally get hold of that sparkling, shining, shimmering diamond ring. Oh, many girls dream of such things. Nakakakilig! And then, the wedding preparations follow—the stunning entourage and all the magical, tangible details that keep you somewhat insane. You keep daydreaming and looking forward to the big day.
But those are just the superficial facts about love and marriage. More than feelings, love is a verb, an action that we need to execute even in the moments when you don’t have enough wonderful feelings to bring out the positive act.
I fell in love, got engaged and then got married. I can say that I’ve been through all sorts of emotions when it comes to love. But no matter how much you both try to always put your best foot forward, those butterfly-in-the-stomach, heart-throbbing feelings can easily ebb and flow. There are a lot of reasons why these things burst and fade, and sometimes, there can be no reasons at all.
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