Excerpt from Opposites Attract. And In Marriage, They Don't Always Attack

By Anne Espinola

 

A few years ago, I told myself that if I don’t get to marry someday, I will just adopt a dog. Most of us—if not all—are scared of being alone and not having a companion in life.

I think, despite today’s choices, many people still feel the same way. And sometimes, we become too paranoid that we start thinking of not just plan A or B, but also plans C to Z on what to do with our lives when we see ourselves inching towards that path.

And so, after a decade in an on-and-off relationship, my long-time boyfriend finally proposed to me. Even during our boyfriend-and-girlfriend years, I always tagged ourselves as the “Man from Mars and Woman from Venus” type from one of the few books I’ve read.

We have a lot of differences. In fact, we are the opposite of each other. But they also say that opposites attract, right? That is why he was attracted to me in the first place. No, I’m not kidding.

But beyond all that physical attraction, the greatest challenge is how to make the relationship and married life work.
We all have different personalities. It is true that you cannot find a person whom you can describe as “perfect,” even by your own standards. And this is probably the main reason why many couples argue that sometimes, relationships end in separation.

Before you decide to get married, both of you must learn the real meaning of the word “acceptance.” You cannot change or at least try to change someone just because he or she doesn’t suit your personal preferences. If someone decides to change for you, that’s a bonus. “Your husband will always be your biggest and oldest child that requires most adult supervision.” This is a funny yet very true quote that many married women can relate to as a truth.

Marriage is a continuous learning process about your spouse. It is very important to negotiate and compromise. Making promises and keeping them don’t always happen 100 percent of the time but both must learn to forgive. And if you can, forget.

 

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About Anne

Thirty-four-year-old Anne has been married for five years and is a graduate of BS Marketing from San Sebastian College - Recoletos.

In 2016, after working in one of the largest banks in the country for more than 13 years, she shifted her career from being a banker to being a full-time wife and mom.

Blessed with a 4-year old daughter, the little tyke is now one of the most beautiful flower girls of all time.

 

 

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Edits: Jacquie Bamba S. Zamora

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Philippine Copyright © 2016 by Katherine C. Eustaquio-Derla

Kath C. Eustaquio-Derla is a journalism graduate from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, Philippines. She wrote Bedroom Blog by Veronica, a relationship blog for Cosmopolitan Philippines from 2009 to 2011, which covers most of her single dating life. In 2015, she published her first book Before I Do. She’s passionate about coffee, red wine, books and Mad Men. She stopped collecting hearts when she got married in 2013 and went back to collecting Archie Comics ever since. Send the author a tweet @kceustaquio.

Disclaimer: This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents are products of the author’s imagination and are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual events, places or persons, living or dead is entirely coincidental. Image from Pexels.com.

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