Excerpt from Untitled. Unfinished.

By Ada de Pedro

 

I have come to the earth-shattering conclusion that my true love, my prince charming, the love of my life may or may not exist, and that’s okay. I am happily single and a recovering love addict. I am also a former professional relationship doormat, gladly sitting out the game to catch my breath and gain back my bearings.

Back story: I was ALWAYS in a relationship. I was ALWAYS the other half of someone. Somehow, the first time my ovaries shed, it sent a signal to my brain to consciously be in a relationship. It’s like I was playing Dumb Ways to Die but with my heart. Twenty-nine years of existence, 15 years of active dating, 3 official exes (don’t bother with the “unofficials”), a million dates and heartaches later, I look back at my life and wonder who I could have been had I not been someone’s half. What Ada would have evolved had she not been either falling in or falling out of love.

I spent so much time playing second fiddle, playing supportive soccer girlfriend / dramatic jealous girl / Portuguese guy’s Filipina conquest #6 / exotic beach girl #2 etc., when I could have been playing the lead role in my own life story.

I could have been going on my own adventures, learning new hobbies, nurturing relationships with people who really, truly mattered, instead of spending time, money and efforts having futile romantic pursuits that only led to eventual heartache.

I mean, call me Debbie Downer, but after going through what seems like a 15-year epic of a drama hurricane, I feel like putting all your eggs in the love basket can be a losing investment.

Humans are complex beings. Human connections are fleeting. Intense, passionate attraction today could be tumbleweed and regrets tomorrow. How do you know that you won’t regret the decision later on? How do you know you won’t become two totally different people and won’t evolve into each other’s worst enemies?

Photo by Ada De Pedro

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 About Ada

Ada De Pedro is a PR and events executive at a multinational IT company. Outside corporate life, she is an avid traveler, fashion fan, longboard enthusiast and adventure-seeker.

She lives for trips to the beach, meeting different cultures and having global conversations on philosophy, culture, politics and general what-the-fuckery, Malibu pineapples during sunset and motor biking coastal roads.

Photos by Ada De Pedro

 

 

 

 

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Edits: Jacquie Bamba S. Zamora

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Philippine Copyright © 2016 by Katherine C. Eustaquio-Derla

Kath C. Eustaquio-Derla is a journalism graduate from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, Philippines. She wrote Bedroom Blog by Veronica, a relationship blog for Cosmopolitan Philippines from 2009 to 2011, which covers most of her single dating life. In 2015, she published her first book Before I Do. She’s passionate about coffee, red wine, books and Mad Men. She stopped collecting hearts when she got married in 2013 and went back to collecting Archie Comics ever since. Send the author a tweet @kceustaquio.

Disclaimer: This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents are products of the author’s imagination and are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual events, places or persons, living or dead is entirely coincidental. Image from Pexels.com.

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